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While I don’t recall the context, I do recall my reaction: Immediate and visceral. “I’m NOT elderly,” I declared forcefully. How can that be? I don’t feel older than 35 – okay 45, if I’m being honest. Actually, she’s closer to 45 and I’m well – much older. But “elderly”?<br><br>Among the synonyms for elderly in the dictionary are “ancient” and “over the hill” which could explain my reaction. I don’t have any problems with “senior” or AARP’s preference of “older adult.” In my daughter’s adopted city, I’m an “honored citizen.” I tend to use the phrase “a woman of a certain age.” Elderly sounds like a state of mind or body that may imply frail. While I have my share of aches and pains, I walk several miles a day, prefer stairs to elevators and, am pretty healthy overall.<br><br>I’ve repeated the story of my daughter’s mischaracterization (now I’m being generous) to friends who have appropriately supported my indignation by being appalled and assuring me that I am not elderly. 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Don’t Call Me Elderly</h1></header> <div class="posted-on"> Posted on 08/19/24 </div> </div> <div class="module-spacer"> <span class="blog-content"><p><div class="RichTextArticleBody"> <div class="RichTextArticleBody-body"><div class="Enhancement" > <div class="Enhancement-item"><figure class="Figure" data-alignment="center"> <img src="https://aarp-states.brightspotcdn.com/41/19/50d923864a43931bb391e272a21f/incoversation-graphic2v2.png" alt="In Conversation" width="1080" height="720"/> </figure> </div> </div><p>A short while ago, when visiting my daughter out-of-state, she referred to her “elderly parents”. While I don’t recall the context, I do recall my reaction: Immediate and visceral. “I’m NOT elderly,” I declared forcefully. How can that be? I don’t feel older than 35 – okay 45, if I’m being honest. Actually, she’s closer to 45 and I’m well – much older. But “elderly”?<br><br>Among the synonyms for elderly in the dictionary are “ancient” and “over the hill” which could explain my reaction. I don’t have any problems with “senior” or AARP’s preference of “older adult.” In my daughter’s adopted city, I’m an “honored citizen.” I tend to use the phrase “a woman of a certain age.” Elderly sounds like a state of mind or body that may imply frail. While I have my share of aches and pains, I walk several miles a day, prefer stairs to elevators and, am pretty healthy overall.<br><br>I’ve repeated the story of my daughter’s mischaracterization (now I’m being generous) to friends who have appropriately supported my indignation by being appalled and assuring me that I am not elderly. I’d love to hear from you. What euphemisms do you prefer? What does elderly denote for you?<br><br>In the meantime, check out the <br><br>e or watch your in box for emails regarding virtual and in-person events taking place across the state in September, including continuation of the Cooking for Caregivers series, yoga and meditation, ADU advocacy, and discussion of election essentials to empower your vote.</p></div> </div> </p></span> </div> </div> <p><i>This story is provided by AARP Illinois. 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While I don’t recall the context, I do recall my reaction: Immediate and visceral. “I’m NOT elderly,” I declared forcefully. How can that be? I don’t feel older than 35 – okay 45, if I’m being honest. Actually, she’s closer to 45 and I’m well – much older. But “elderly”?<br><br>Among the synonyms for elderly in the dictionary are “ancient” and “over the hill” which could explain my reaction. I don’t have any problems with “senior” or AARP’s preference of “older adult.” In my daughter’s adopted city, I’m an “honored citizen.” I tend to use the phrase “a woman of a certain age.” Elderly sounds like a state of mind or body that may imply frail. While I have my share of aches and pains, I walk several miles a day, prefer stairs to elevators and, am pretty healthy overall.<br><br>I’ve repeated the story of my daughter’s mischaracterization (now I’m being generous) to friends who have appropriately supported my indignation by being appalled and assuring me that I am not elderly. I’d love to hear from you. What euphemisms do you prefer? What does elderly denote for you?<br><br>In the meantime, check out the <br><br>e or watch your in box for emails regarding virtual and in-person events taking place across the state in September, including continuation of the Cooking for Caregivers series, yoga and meditation, ADU advocacy, and discussion of election essentials to empower your vote.</p></div> </div> </p></span> </div> </div> <p><i>This story is provided by AARP Illinois. 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Don’t Call Me Elderly</h1></header> <div class="posted-on"> Posted on 08/19/24 </div> </div> <div class="module-spacer"> <span class="blog-content"><p><div class="RichTextArticleBody"> <div class="RichTextArticleBody-body"><div class="Enhancement" > <div class="Enhancement-item"><figure class="Figure" data-alignment="center"> <img src="https://aarp-states.brightspotcdn.com/41/19/50d923864a43931bb391e272a21f/incoversation-graphic2v2.png" alt="In Conversation" width="1080" height="720"/> </figure> </div> </div><p>A short while ago, when visiting my daughter out-of-state, she referred to her “elderly parents”. While I don’t recall the context, I do recall my reaction: Immediate and visceral. “I’m NOT elderly,” I declared forcefully. How can that be? I don’t feel older than 35 – okay 45, if I’m being honest. Actually, she’s closer to 45 and I’m well – much older. But “elderly”?<br><br>Among the synonyms for elderly in the dictionary are “ancient” and “over the hill” which could explain my reaction. I don’t have any problems with “senior” or AARP’s preference of “older adult.” In my daughter’s adopted city, I’m an “honored citizen.” I tend to use the phrase “a woman of a certain age.” Elderly sounds like a state of mind or body that may imply frail. While I have my share of aches and pains, I walk several miles a day, prefer stairs to elevators and, am pretty healthy overall.<br><br>I’ve repeated the story of my daughter’s mischaracterization (now I’m being generous) to friends who have appropriately supported my indignation by being appalled and assuring me that I am not elderly. I’d love to hear from you. What euphemisms do you prefer? What does elderly denote for you?<br><br>In the meantime, check out the <br><br>e or watch your in box for emails regarding virtual and in-person events taking place across the state in September, including continuation of the Cooking for Caregivers series, yoga and meditation, ADU advocacy, and discussion of election essentials to empower your vote.</p></div> </div> </p></span> </div> </div> <p><i>This story is provided by AARP Illinois. 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While I don’t recall the context, I do recall my reaction: Immediate and visceral. “I’m NOT elderly,” I declared forcefully. How can that be? I don’t feel older than 35 – okay 45, if I’m being honest. Actually, she’s closer to 45 and I’m well – much older. But “elderly”?<br><br>Among the synonyms for elderly in the dictionary are “ancient” and “over the hill” which could explain my reaction. I don’t have any problems with “senior” or AARP’s preference of “older adult.” In my daughter’s adopted city, I’m an “honored citizen.” I tend to use the phrase “a woman of a certain age.” Elderly sounds like a state of mind or body that may imply frail. While I have my share of aches and pains, I walk several miles a day, prefer stairs to elevators and, am pretty healthy overall.<br><br>I’ve repeated the story of my daughter’s mischaracterization (now I’m being generous) to friends who have appropriately supported my indignation by being appalled and assuring me that I am not elderly. I’d love to hear from you. What euphemisms do you prefer? What does elderly denote for you?<br><br>In the meantime, check out the <br><br>e or watch your in box for emails regarding virtual and in-person events taking place across the state in September, including continuation of the Cooking for Caregivers series, yoga and meditation, ADU advocacy, and discussion of election essentials to empower your vote.</p></div> </div> </p></span> </div> </div> <p><i>This story is provided by AARP Illinois. 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Don’t Call Me Elderly</h1></header> <div class="posted-on"> Posted on 08/19/24 </div> </div> <div class="module-spacer"> <span class="blog-content"><p><div class="RichTextArticleBody"> <div class="RichTextArticleBody-body"><div class="Enhancement" > <div class="Enhancement-item"><figure class="Figure" data-alignment="center"> <img src="https://aarp-states.brightspotcdn.com/41/19/50d923864a43931bb391e272a21f/incoversation-graphic2v2.png" alt="In Conversation" width="1080" height="720"/> </figure> </div> </div><p>A short while ago, when visiting my daughter out-of-state, she referred to her “elderly parents”. While I don’t recall the context, I do recall my reaction: Immediate and visceral. “I’m NOT elderly,” I declared forcefully. How can that be? I don’t feel older than 35 – okay 45, if I’m being honest. Actually, she’s closer to 45 and I’m well – much older. But “elderly”?<br><br>Among the synonyms for elderly in the dictionary are “ancient” and “over the hill” which could explain my reaction. I don’t have any problems with “senior” or AARP’s preference of “older adult.” In my daughter’s adopted city, I’m an “honored citizen.” I tend to use the phrase “a woman of a certain age.” Elderly sounds like a state of mind or body that may imply frail. While I have my share of aches and pains, I walk several miles a day, prefer stairs to elevators and, am pretty healthy overall.<br><br>I’ve repeated the story of my daughter’s mischaracterization (now I’m being generous) to friends who have appropriately supported my indignation by being appalled and assuring me that I am not elderly. I’d love to hear from you. What euphemisms do you prefer? What does elderly denote for you?<br><br>In the meantime, check out the <br><br>e or watch your in box for emails regarding virtual and in-person events taking place across the state in September, including continuation of the Cooking for Caregivers series, yoga and meditation, ADU advocacy, and discussion of election essentials to empower your vote.</p></div> </div> </p></span> </div> </div> <p><i>This story is provided by AARP Illinois. 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While I don’t recall the context, I do recall my reaction: Immediate and visceral. “I’m NOT elderly,” I declared forcefully. How can that be? I don’t feel older than 35 – okay 45, if I’m being honest. Actually, she’s closer to 45 and I’m well – much older. But “elderly”?<br><br>Among the synonyms for elderly in the dictionary are “ancient” and “over the hill” which could explain my reaction. I don’t have any problems with “senior” or AARP’s preference of “older adult.” In my daughter’s adopted city, I’m an “honored citizen.” I tend to use the phrase “a woman of a certain age.” Elderly sounds like a state of mind or body that may imply frail. While I have my share of aches and pains, I walk several miles a day, prefer stairs to elevators and, am pretty healthy overall.<br><br>I’ve repeated the story of my daughter’s mischaracterization (now I’m being generous) to friends who have appropriately supported my indignation by being appalled and assuring me that I am not elderly. I’d love to hear from you. What euphemisms do you prefer? What does elderly denote for you?<br><br>In the meantime, check out the <br><br>e or watch your in box for emails regarding virtual and in-person events taking place across the state in September, including continuation of the Cooking for Caregivers series, yoga and meditation, ADU advocacy, and discussion of election essentials to empower your vote.</p></div> </div> </p></span> </div> </div> <p><i>This story is provided by AARP Illinois. 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Don’t Call Me Elderly</h1></header> <div class="posted-on"> Posted on 08/19/24 </div> </div> <div class="module-spacer"> <span class="blog-content"><p><div class="RichTextArticleBody"> <div class="RichTextArticleBody-body"><div class="Enhancement" > <div class="Enhancement-item"><figure class="Figure" data-alignment="center"> <img src="https://aarp-states.brightspotcdn.com/41/19/50d923864a43931bb391e272a21f/incoversation-graphic2v2.png" alt="In Conversation" width="1080" height="720"/> </figure> </div> </div><p>A short while ago, when visiting my daughter out-of-state, she referred to her “elderly parents”. While I don’t recall the context, I do recall my reaction: Immediate and visceral. “I’m NOT elderly,” I declared forcefully. How can that be? I don’t feel older than 35 – okay 45, if I’m being honest. Actually, she’s closer to 45 and I’m well – much older. But “elderly”?<br><br>Among the synonyms for elderly in the dictionary are “ancient” and “over the hill” which could explain my reaction. I don’t have any problems with “senior” or AARP’s preference of “older adult.” In my daughter’s adopted city, I’m an “honored citizen.” I tend to use the phrase “a woman of a certain age.” Elderly sounds like a state of mind or body that may imply frail. While I have my share of aches and pains, I walk several miles a day, prefer stairs to elevators and, am pretty healthy overall.<br><br>I’ve repeated the story of my daughter’s mischaracterization (now I’m being generous) to friends who have appropriately supported my indignation by being appalled and assuring me that I am not elderly. I’d love to hear from you. What euphemisms do you prefer? What does elderly denote for you?<br><br>In the meantime, check out the <br><br>e or watch your in box for emails regarding virtual and in-person events taking place across the state in September, including continuation of the Cooking for Caregivers series, yoga and meditation, ADU advocacy, and discussion of election essentials to empower your vote.</p></div> </div> </p></span> </div> </div> <p><i>This story is provided by AARP Illinois. 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A short while ago, when visiting my daughter out-of-state, she referred to her “elderly parents”. While I don’t recall the context, I do recall my reaction: Immediate and visceral. “I’m NOT elderly,” I declared forcefully. How can that be? I don’t feel older than 35 – okay 45, if I’m being honest. Actually, she’s closer to 45 and I’m well – much older. But “elderly”?
Among the synonyms for elderly in the dictionary are “ancient” and “over the hill” which could explain my reaction. I don’t have any problems with “senior” or AARP’s preference of “older adult.” In my daughter’s adopted city, I’m an “honored citizen.” I tend to use the phrase “a woman of a certain age.” Elderly sounds like a state of mind or body that may imply frail. While I have my share of aches and pains, I walk several miles a day, prefer stairs to elevators and, am pretty healthy overall.
I’ve repeated the story of my daughter’s mischaracterization (now I’m being generous) to friends who have appropriately supported my indignation by being appalled and assuring me that I am not elderly. I’d love to hear from you. What euphemisms do you prefer? What does elderly denote for you?
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While I don’t recall the context, I do recall my reaction: Immediate and visceral. “I’m NOT elderly,” I declared forcefully. How can that be? I don’t feel older than 35 – okay 45, if I’m being honest. Actually, she’s closer to 45 and I’m well – much older. But “elderly”?<br><br>Among the synonyms for elderly in the dictionary are “ancient” and “over the hill” which could explain my reaction. I don’t have any problems with “senior” or AARP’s preference of “older adult.” In my daughter’s adopted city, I’m an “honored citizen.” I tend to use the phrase “a woman of a certain age.” Elderly sounds like a state of mind or body that may imply frail. While I have my share of aches and pains, I walk several miles a day, prefer stairs to elevators and, am pretty healthy overall.<br><br>I’ve repeated the story of my daughter’s mischaracterization (now I’m being generous) to friends who have appropriately supported my indignation by being appalled and assuring me that I am not elderly. I’d love to hear from you. What euphemisms do you prefer? What does elderly denote for you?<br><br>In the meantime, check out the <br><br>e or watch your in box for emails regarding virtual and in-person events taking place across the state in September, including continuation of the Cooking for Caregivers series, yoga and meditation, ADU advocacy, and discussion of election essentials to empower your vote.</p></div> </div> </p></span> </div> </div> <p><i>This story is provided by AARP Illinois. 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Don’t Call Me Elderly</h1></header> <div class="posted-on"> Posted on 08/19/24 </div> </div> <div class="module-spacer"> <span class="blog-content"><p><div class="RichTextArticleBody"> <div class="RichTextArticleBody-body"><div class="Enhancement" > <div class="Enhancement-item"><figure class="Figure" data-alignment="center"> <img src="https://aarp-states.brightspotcdn.com/41/19/50d923864a43931bb391e272a21f/incoversation-graphic2v2.png" alt="In Conversation" width="1080" height="720"/> </figure> </div> </div><p>A short while ago, when visiting my daughter out-of-state, she referred to her “elderly parents”. While I don’t recall the context, I do recall my reaction: Immediate and visceral. “I’m NOT elderly,” I declared forcefully. How can that be? I don’t feel older than 35 – okay 45, if I’m being honest. Actually, she’s closer to 45 and I’m well – much older. But “elderly”?<br><br>Among the synonyms for elderly in the dictionary are “ancient” and “over the hill” which could explain my reaction. I don’t have any problems with “senior” or AARP’s preference of “older adult.” In my daughter’s adopted city, I’m an “honored citizen.” I tend to use the phrase “a woman of a certain age.” Elderly sounds like a state of mind or body that may imply frail. While I have my share of aches and pains, I walk several miles a day, prefer stairs to elevators and, am pretty healthy overall.<br><br>I’ve repeated the story of my daughter’s mischaracterization (now I’m being generous) to friends who have appropriately supported my indignation by being appalled and assuring me that I am not elderly. I’d love to hear from you. What euphemisms do you prefer? What does elderly denote for you?<br><br>In the meantime, check out the <br><br>e or watch your in box for emails regarding virtual and in-person events taking place across the state in September, including continuation of the Cooking for Caregivers series, yoga and meditation, ADU advocacy, and discussion of election essentials to empower your vote.</p></div> </div> </p></span> </div> </div> <p><i>This story is provided by AARP Illinois. 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$viewFile = '/var/www/vhosts/vcc_staging/app/View/Layouts/aarp_2023.ctp' $dataForView = array( 'content_for_layout' => '<div class="row twoColumnLayout"> <div class="col-md-8 left-rail"><div class="module clearfix"><div class="ar-basic-box"> <div> <div class="module-spacer"> <header><h1 class="article-headline">In Conversation …. Don’t Call Me Elderly</h1></header> <div class="posted-on"> Posted on 08/19/24 </div> </div> <div class="module-spacer"> <span class="blog-content"><p><div class="RichTextArticleBody"> <div class="RichTextArticleBody-body"><div class="Enhancement" > <div class="Enhancement-item"><figure class="Figure" data-alignment="center"> <img src="https://aarp-states.brightspotcdn.com/41/19/50d923864a43931bb391e272a21f/incoversation-graphic2v2.png" alt="In Conversation" width="1080" height="720"/> </figure> </div> </div><p>A short while ago, when visiting my daughter out-of-state, she referred to her “elderly parents”. While I don’t recall the context, I do recall my reaction: Immediate and visceral. “I’m NOT elderly,” I declared forcefully. How can that be? I don’t feel older than 35 – okay 45, if I’m being honest. Actually, she’s closer to 45 and I’m well – much older. But “elderly”?<br><br>Among the synonyms for elderly in the dictionary are “ancient” and “over the hill” which could explain my reaction. I don’t have any problems with “senior” or AARP’s preference of “older adult.” In my daughter’s adopted city, I’m an “honored citizen.” I tend to use the phrase “a woman of a certain age.” Elderly sounds like a state of mind or body that may imply frail. While I have my share of aches and pains, I walk several miles a day, prefer stairs to elevators and, am pretty healthy overall.<br><br>I’ve repeated the story of my daughter’s mischaracterization (now I’m being generous) to friends who have appropriately supported my indignation by being appalled and assuring me that I am not elderly. I’d love to hear from you. What euphemisms do you prefer? What does elderly denote for you?<br><br>In the meantime, check out the <br><br>e or watch your in box for emails regarding virtual and in-person events taking place across the state in September, including continuation of the Cooking for Caregivers series, yoga and meditation, ADU advocacy, and discussion of election essentials to empower your vote.</p></div> </div> </p></span> </div> </div> <p><i>This story is provided by AARP Illinois. 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Don’t Call Me Elderly</h1></header> <div class="posted-on"> Posted on 08/19/24 </div> </div> <div class="module-spacer"> <span class="blog-content"><p><div class="RichTextArticleBody"> <div class="RichTextArticleBody-body"><div class="Enhancement" > <div class="Enhancement-item"><figure class="Figure" data-alignment="center"> <img src="https://aarp-states.brightspotcdn.com/41/19/50d923864a43931bb391e272a21f/incoversation-graphic2v2.png" alt="In Conversation" width="1080" height="720"/> </figure> </div> </div><p>A short while ago, when visiting my daughter out-of-state, she referred to her “elderly parents”. While I don’t recall the context, I do recall my reaction: Immediate and visceral. “I’m NOT elderly,” I declared forcefully. How can that be? I don’t feel older than 35 – okay 45, if I’m being honest. Actually, she’s closer to 45 and I’m well – much older. But “elderly”?<br><br>Among the synonyms for elderly in the dictionary are “ancient” and “over the hill” which could explain my reaction. I don’t have any problems with “senior” or AARP’s preference of “older adult.” In my daughter’s adopted city, I’m an “honored citizen.” I tend to use the phrase “a woman of a certain age.” Elderly sounds like a state of mind or body that may imply frail. While I have my share of aches and pains, I walk several miles a day, prefer stairs to elevators and, am pretty healthy overall.<br><br>I’ve repeated the story of my daughter’s mischaracterization (now I’m being generous) to friends who have appropriately supported my indignation by being appalled and assuring me that I am not elderly. I’d love to hear from you. What euphemisms do you prefer? What does elderly denote for you?<br><br>In the meantime, check out the <br><br>e or watch your in box for emails regarding virtual and in-person events taking place across the state in September, including continuation of the Cooking for Caregivers series, yoga and meditation, ADU advocacy, and discussion of election essentials to empower your vote.</p></div> </div> </p></span> </div> </div> <p><i>This story is provided by AARP Illinois. 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While I don’t recall the context, I do recall my reaction: Immediate and visceral. “I’m NOT elderly,” I declared forcefully. How can that be? I don’t feel older than 35 – okay 45, if I’m being honest. Actually, she’s closer to 45 and I’m well – much older. But “elderly”?<br><br>Among the synonyms for elderly in the dictionary are “ancient” and “over the hill” which could explain my reaction. I don’t have any problems with “senior” or AARP’s preference of “older adult.” In my daughter’s adopted city, I’m an “honored citizen.” I tend to use the phrase “a woman of a certain age.” Elderly sounds like a state of mind or body that may imply frail. While I have my share of aches and pains, I walk several miles a day, prefer stairs to elevators and, am pretty healthy overall.<br><br>I’ve repeated the story of my daughter’s mischaracterization (now I’m being generous) to friends who have appropriately supported my indignation by being appalled and assuring me that I am not elderly. I’d love to hear from you. What euphemisms do you prefer? What does elderly denote for you?<br><br>In the meantime, check out the <br><br>e or watch your in box for emails regarding virtual and in-person events taking place across the state in September, including continuation of the Cooking for Caregivers series, yoga and meditation, ADU advocacy, and discussion of election essentials to empower your vote.</p></div> </div> </p></span> </div> </div> <p><i>This story is provided by AARP Illinois. 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"/Resource/experience.master.resource.root.html"); ?> <style type="text/css"> .recommenationSection {font-family: Lato, sans-serif} .recommendationSection h3 {font-size:30px!important; text-transform:none; letter-spacing:0.03em} .recommendationSection .js-mvc-offer-recommended-article-pack-category {color:#dd1200; font-family:Lato, sans-serif; font-size:15px; font-weight:700; text-transform:uppercase; margin:0} .recommendationSection h4 a {color:#121212; font-size:20px; font-weight:700} .recommendationSection .uxdia-c-featured-tile__content-wrapper {padding: 0 0 .5em 0; margin-bottom: 1.25em; border-bottom: 1px solid #000} </style>', 'css' => '.recommendationSection h3 {font-size:30px} .recommenadationSection .js-mvc-offer-recommended-article-pack-category {color:rgb(221,18,0); font-size:12px} .recommendationSection h4 a {color:#121212; font-size:20px} ', 'script' => '', 'cache_time' => '', 'localize' => '0' ) $obj = false</pre><pre class="stack-trace">include - APP/Lib/Modules.php(13) : eval()'d code, line 1 eval - APP/Lib/Modules.php(13) : eval()'d code, line 1 Modules::render() - APP/Lib/Modules.php, line 13 Modules::load() - APP/Lib/Modules.php, line 29 Localize::getModule() - APP/Lib/Localize.php, line 294 Localize::replace() - APP/Lib/Localize.php, line 219 Modules::render() - APP/Lib/Modules.php, line 9 include - APP/View/Elements/display.ctp, line 13 View::_evaluate() - CORE/Cake/View/View.php, line 971 View::_render() - CORE/Cake/View/View.php, line 933 View::render() - CORE/Cake/View/View.php, line 473 Controller::render() - CORE/Cake/Controller/Controller.php, line 963 AppController::renderPage() - APP/Controller/AppController.php, line 136 BlogsController::display() - APP/Controller/BlogsController.php, line 81 ReflectionMethod::invokeArgs() - [internal], line ?? Controller::invokeAction() - CORE/Cake/Controller/Controller.php, line 491 Dispatcher::_invoke() - CORE/Cake/Routing/Dispatcher.php, line 193 Dispatcher::dispatch() - CORE/Cake/Routing/Dispatcher.php, line 167</pre></div></pre><style type="text/css"> .recommenationSection {font-family: Lato, sans-serif} .recommendationSection h3 {font-size:30px!important; text-transform:none; letter-spacing:0.03em} .recommendationSection .js-mvc-offer-recommended-article-pack-category {color:#dd1200; font-family:Lato, sans-serif; font-size:15px; font-weight:700; text-transform:uppercase; margin:0} .recommendationSection h4 a {color:#121212; font-size:20px; font-weight:700} .recommendationSection .uxdia-c-featured-tile__content-wrapper {padding: 0 0 .5em 0; margin-bottom: 1.25em; border-bottom: 1px solid #000} </style> <div aria-hidden="true" class="aarpe-ad-wrapper"> <div class="aarpe-ad en clearfix" id="300x250_53475" data-adsize="300x250"> <script type="text/javascript"> if(typeof AARP.ads !== 'undefined'){ AARP.ads.slots({ id:'300x250_53475', size:'300x250'}); } </script> </div> </div> <div class="card-tout card-dark membership-tout" style="margin:0 0 30px 0;"> <img class="img-responsive image" title="image of two AARP membership cards" alt="image of two AARP membership cards" src="https://cdn-aarp.americantowns.com/img/tout-two-cards.png"> <div class="title">Only $12 your first year with Automatic Renewal</div> <ul class="list"> <li>Immediate access to your <a href="https://www.aarp.org/benefits-discounts/">member benefits</a></li> <li>Discounts on travel and everyday savings</li> <li>Subscription to AARP The Magazine</li> <li>FREE second membership</li> </ul> <div class="action"> <a class="btn" href="https://appsec.aarp.org/mem/join?campaignid=UAJFT3&intcmp=LNK-CSN-AARPLOCAL-JRTOUT-RR-A-SPRINGFIELD-IL">Join AARP</a> <div class="body">Already a member? 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Don’t Call Me Elderly</h1></header> <div class="posted-on"> Posted on 08/19/24 </div> </div> <div class="module-spacer"> <span class="blog-content"><p><div class="RichTextArticleBody"> <div class="RichTextArticleBody-body"><div class="Enhancement" > <div class="Enhancement-item"><figure class="Figure" data-alignment="center"> <img src="https://aarp-states.brightspotcdn.com/41/19/50d923864a43931bb391e272a21f/incoversation-graphic2v2.png" alt="In Conversation" width="1080" height="720"/> </figure> </div> </div><p>A short while ago, when visiting my daughter out-of-state, she referred to her “elderly parents”. While I don’t recall the context, I do recall my reaction: Immediate and visceral. “I’m NOT elderly,” I declared forcefully. How can that be? I don’t feel older than 35 – okay 45, if I’m being honest. Actually, she’s closer to 45 and I’m well – much older. But “elderly”?<br><br>Among the synonyms for elderly in the dictionary are “ancient” and “over the hill” which could explain my reaction. I don’t have any problems with “senior” or AARP’s preference of “older adult.” In my daughter’s adopted city, I’m an “honored citizen.” I tend to use the phrase “a woman of a certain age.” Elderly sounds like a state of mind or body that may imply frail. While I have my share of aches and pains, I walk several miles a day, prefer stairs to elevators and, am pretty healthy overall.<br><br>I’ve repeated the story of my daughter’s mischaracterization (now I’m being generous) to friends who have appropriately supported my indignation by being appalled and assuring me that I am not elderly. I’d love to hear from you. What euphemisms do you prefer? What does elderly denote for you?<br><br>In the meantime, check out the <br><br>e or watch your in box for emails regarding virtual and in-person events taking place across the state in September, including continuation of the Cooking for Caregivers series, yoga and meditation, ADU advocacy, and discussion of election essentials to empower your vote.</p></div> </div> </p></span> </div> </div> <p><i>This story is provided by AARP Illinois. 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"/Resource/experience.master.resource.root.html"); ?> <style type="text/css"> .recommenationSection {font-family: Lato, sans-serif} .recommendationSection h3 {font-size:30px!important; text-transform:none; letter-spacing:0.03em} .recommendationSection .js-mvc-offer-recommended-article-pack-category {color:#dd1200; font-family:Lato, sans-serif; font-size:15px; font-weight:700; text-transform:uppercase; margin:0} .recommendationSection h4 a {color:#121212; font-size:20px; font-weight:700} .recommendationSection .uxdia-c-featured-tile__content-wrapper {padding: 0 0 .5em 0; margin-bottom: 1.25em; border-bottom: 1px solid #000} </style>', 'css' => '.recommendationSection h3 {font-size:30px} .recommenadationSection .js-mvc-offer-recommended-article-pack-category {color:rgb(221,18,0); font-size:12px} .recommendationSection h4 a {color:#121212; font-size:20px} ', 'script' => '', 'cache_time' => '', 'localize' => '0' ) $obj = false</pre><pre class="stack-trace">include - APP/Lib/Modules.php(13) : eval()'d code, line 1 eval - APP/Lib/Modules.php(13) : eval()'d code, line 1 Modules::render() - APP/Lib/Modules.php, line 13 Modules::load() - APP/Lib/Modules.php, line 29 Localize::getModule() - APP/Lib/Localize.php, line 294 Localize::replace() - APP/Lib/Localize.php, line 219 Modules::render() - APP/Lib/Modules.php, line 9 include - APP/View/Elements/display.ctp, line 13 View::_evaluate() - CORE/Cake/View/View.php, line 971 View::_render() - CORE/Cake/View/View.php, line 933 View::render() - CORE/Cake/View/View.php, line 473 Controller::render() - CORE/Cake/Controller/Controller.php, line 963 AppController::renderPage() - APP/Controller/AppController.php, line 136 BlogsController::display() - APP/Controller/BlogsController.php, line 81 ReflectionMethod::invokeArgs() - [internal], line ?? Controller::invokeAction() - CORE/Cake/Controller/Controller.php, line 491 Dispatcher::_invoke() - CORE/Cake/Routing/Dispatcher.php, line 193 Dispatcher::dispatch() - CORE/Cake/Routing/Dispatcher.php, line 167</pre></div></pre><pre class="cake-error"><a href="javascript:void(0);" onclick="document.getElementById('cakeErr66e7d77345b65-trace').style.display = (document.getElementById('cakeErr66e7d77345b65-trace').style.display == 'none' ? 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'' : 'none')">Context</a><pre id="cakeErr66e7d77345b65-context" class="cake-context" style="display: none;">$module = array( '_id' => '66158db0e9dff2b1fd9cafcd', 'module_id' => '1098', 'name' => 'RHS - Events Experience', 'type' => 'php', 'data' => '<?php include(APP . 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While I don’t recall the context, I do recall my reaction: Immediate and visceral. “I’m NOT elderly,” I declared forcefully. How can that be? I don’t feel older than 35 – okay 45, if I’m being honest. Actually, she’s closer to 45 and I’m well – much older. But “elderly”?<br><br>Among the synonyms for elderly in the dictionary are “ancient” and “over the hill” which could explain my reaction. I don’t have any problems with “senior” or AARP’s preference of “older adult.” In my daughter’s adopted city, I’m an “honored citizen.” I tend to use the phrase “a woman of a certain age.” Elderly sounds like a state of mind or body that may imply frail. While I have my share of aches and pains, I walk several miles a day, prefer stairs to elevators and, am pretty healthy overall.<br><br>I’ve repeated the story of my daughter’s mischaracterization (now I’m being generous) to friends who have appropriately supported my indignation by being appalled and assuring me that I am not elderly. I’d love to hear from you. What euphemisms do you prefer? What does elderly denote for you?<br><br>In the meantime, check out the <br><br>e or watch your in box for emails regarding virtual and in-person events taking place across the state in September, including continuation of the Cooking for Caregivers series, yoga and meditation, ADU advocacy, and discussion of election essentials to empower your vote.</p></div> </div> </p></span> </div> </div> <p><i>This story is provided by AARP Illinois. 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'' : 'none');"><b>Warning</b> (2)</a>: include() [<a href='http://php.net/function.include'>function.include</a>]: Failed opening '/var/www/vhosts/vcc_staging/app//Resource/experience.master.resource.root.html' for inclusion (include_path='/var/www/vhosts/vcc_staging/lib:.:/usr/share/pear:/usr/share/php') [<b>APP/Lib/Modules.php(13) : eval()'d code</b>, line <b>1</b>]<div id="cakeErr66e7d77345b65-trace" class="cake-stack-trace" style="display: none;"><a href="javascript:void(0);" onclick="document.getElementById('cakeErr66e7d77345b65-code').style.display = (document.getElementById('cakeErr66e7d77345b65-code').style.display == 'none' ? '' : 'none')">Code</a> <a href="javascript:void(0);" onclick="document.getElementById('cakeErr66e7d77345b65-context').style.display = (document.getElementById('cakeErr66e7d77345b65-context').style.display == 'none' ? '' : 'none')">Context</a><pre id="cakeErr66e7d77345b65-context" class="cake-context" style="display: none;">$module = array( '_id' => '66158db0e9dff2b1fd9cafcd', 'module_id' => '1098', 'name' => 'RHS - Events Experience', 'type' => 'php', 'data' => '<?php include(APP . "/Resource/experience.master.resource.root.html"); ?> <style type="text/css"> .recommenationSection {font-family: Lato, sans-serif} .recommendationSection h3 {font-size:30px!important; text-transform:none; letter-spacing:0.03em} .recommendationSection .js-mvc-offer-recommended-article-pack-category {color:#dd1200; font-family:Lato, sans-serif; font-size:15px; font-weight:700; text-transform:uppercase; margin:0} .recommendationSection h4 a {color:#121212; font-size:20px; font-weight:700} .recommendationSection .uxdia-c-featured-tile__content-wrapper {padding: 0 0 .5em 0; margin-bottom: 1.25em; border-bottom: 1px solid #000} </style>', 'css' => '.recommendationSection h3 {font-size:30px} .recommenadationSection .js-mvc-offer-recommended-article-pack-category {color:rgb(221,18,0); font-size:12px} .recommendationSection h4 a {color:#121212; font-size:20px} ', 'script' => '', 'cache_time' => '', 'localize' => '0' ) $obj = false</pre><pre class="stack-trace">include - APP/Lib/Modules.php(13) : eval()'d code, line 1 eval - APP/Lib/Modules.php(13) : eval()'d code, line 1 Modules::render() - APP/Lib/Modules.php, line 13 Modules::load() - APP/Lib/Modules.php, line 29 Localize::getModule() - APP/Lib/Localize.php, line 294 Localize::replace() - APP/Lib/Localize.php, line 219 Modules::render() - APP/Lib/Modules.php, line 9 include - APP/View/Elements/display.ctp, line 13 View::_evaluate() - CORE/Cake/View/View.php, line 971 View::_render() - CORE/Cake/View/View.php, line 933 View::render() - CORE/Cake/View/View.php, line 473 Controller::render() - CORE/Cake/Controller/Controller.php, line 963 AppController::renderPage() - APP/Controller/AppController.php, line 136 BlogsController::display() - APP/Controller/BlogsController.php, line 81 ReflectionMethod::invokeArgs() - [internal], line ?? Controller::invokeAction() - CORE/Cake/Controller/Controller.php, line 491 Dispatcher::_invoke() - CORE/Cake/Routing/Dispatcher.php, line 193 Dispatcher::dispatch() - CORE/Cake/Routing/Dispatcher.php, line 167</pre></div></pre><style type="text/css"> .recommenationSection {font-family: Lato, sans-serif} .recommendationSection h3 {font-size:30px!important; text-transform:none; letter-spacing:0.03em} .recommendationSection .js-mvc-offer-recommended-article-pack-category {color:#dd1200; font-family:Lato, sans-serif; font-size:15px; font-weight:700; text-transform:uppercase; margin:0} .recommendationSection h4 a {color:#121212; font-size:20px; font-weight:700} .recommendationSection .uxdia-c-featured-tile__content-wrapper {padding: 0 0 .5em 0; margin-bottom: 1.25em; border-bottom: 1px solid #000} </style> <div aria-hidden="true" class="aarpe-ad-wrapper"> <div class="aarpe-ad en clearfix" id="300x250_53475" data-adsize="300x250"> <script type="text/javascript"> if(typeof AARP.ads !== 'undefined'){ AARP.ads.slots({ id:'300x250_53475', size:'300x250'}); } </script> </div> </div> <div class="card-tout card-dark membership-tout" style="margin:0 0 30px 0;"> <img class="img-responsive image" title="image of two AARP membership cards" alt="image of two AARP membership cards" src="https://cdn-aarp.americantowns.com/img/tout-two-cards.png"> <div class="title">Only $12 your first year with Automatic Renewal</div> <ul class="list"> <li>Immediate access to your <a href="https://www.aarp.org/benefits-discounts/">member benefits</a></li> <li>Discounts on travel and everyday savings</li> <li>Subscription to AARP The Magazine</li> <li>FREE second membership</li> </ul> <div class="action"> <a class="btn" href="https://appsec.aarp.org/mem/join?campaignid=UAJFT3&intcmp=LNK-CSN-AARPLOCAL-JRTOUT-RR-A-SPRINGFIELD-IL">Join AARP</a> <div class="body">Already a member? 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Don’t Call Me Elderly</h1></header> <div class="posted-on"> Posted on 08/19/24 </div> </div> <div class="module-spacer"> <span class="blog-content"><p><div class="RichTextArticleBody"> <div class="RichTextArticleBody-body"><div class="Enhancement" > <div class="Enhancement-item"><figure class="Figure" data-alignment="center"> <img src="https://aarp-states.brightspotcdn.com/41/19/50d923864a43931bb391e272a21f/incoversation-graphic2v2.png" alt="In Conversation" width="1080" height="720"/> </figure> </div> </div><p>A short while ago, when visiting my daughter out-of-state, she referred to her “elderly parents”. While I don’t recall the context, I do recall my reaction: Immediate and visceral. “I’m NOT elderly,” I declared forcefully. How can that be? I don’t feel older than 35 – okay 45, if I’m being honest. Actually, she’s closer to 45 and I’m well – much older. But “elderly”?<br><br>Among the synonyms for elderly in the dictionary are “ancient” and “over the hill” which could explain my reaction. I don’t have any problems with “senior” or AARP’s preference of “older adult.” In my daughter’s adopted city, I’m an “honored citizen.” I tend to use the phrase “a woman of a certain age.” Elderly sounds like a state of mind or body that may imply frail. While I have my share of aches and pains, I walk several miles a day, prefer stairs to elevators and, am pretty healthy overall.<br><br>I’ve repeated the story of my daughter’s mischaracterization (now I’m being generous) to friends who have appropriately supported my indignation by being appalled and assuring me that I am not elderly. I’d love to hear from you. What euphemisms do you prefer? What does elderly denote for you?<br><br>In the meantime, check out the <br><br>e or watch your in box for emails regarding virtual and in-person events taking place across the state in September, including continuation of the Cooking for Caregivers series, yoga and meditation, ADU advocacy, and discussion of election essentials to empower your vote.</p></div> </div> </p></span> </div> </div> <p><i>This story is provided by AARP Illinois. 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'' : 'none');"><b>Warning</b> (2)</a>: include(/var/www/vhosts/vcc_staging/app//Resource/experience.master.resource.root.html): failed to open stream: No such file or directory [<b>APP/Lib/Modules.php(13) : eval()'d code</b>, line <b>1</b>]<div id="cakeErr66e7d77344c8d-trace" class="cake-stack-trace" style="display: none;"><a href="javascript:void(0);" onclick="document.getElementById('cakeErr66e7d77344c8d-code').style.display = (document.getElementById('cakeErr66e7d77344c8d-code').style.display == 'none' ? '' : 'none')">Code</a> <a href="javascript:void(0);" onclick="document.getElementById('cakeErr66e7d77344c8d-context').style.display = (document.getElementById('cakeErr66e7d77344c8d-context').style.display == 'none' ? '' : 'none')">Context</a><pre id="cakeErr66e7d77344c8d-context" class="cake-context" style="display: none;">$module = array( '_id' => '66158db0e9dff2b1fd9cafcd', 'module_id' => '1098', 'name' => 'RHS - Events Experience', 'type' => 'php', 'data' => '<?php include(APP . "/Resource/experience.master.resource.root.html"); ?> <style type="text/css"> .recommenationSection {font-family: Lato, sans-serif} .recommendationSection h3 {font-size:30px!important; text-transform:none; letter-spacing:0.03em} .recommendationSection .js-mvc-offer-recommended-article-pack-category {color:#dd1200; font-family:Lato, sans-serif; font-size:15px; font-weight:700; text-transform:uppercase; margin:0} .recommendationSection h4 a {color:#121212; font-size:20px; font-weight:700} .recommendationSection .uxdia-c-featured-tile__content-wrapper {padding: 0 0 .5em 0; margin-bottom: 1.25em; border-bottom: 1px solid #000} </style>', 'css' => '.recommendationSection h3 {font-size:30px} .recommenadationSection .js-mvc-offer-recommended-article-pack-category {color:rgb(221,18,0); font-size:12px} .recommendationSection h4 a {color:#121212; font-size:20px} ', 'script' => '', 'cache_time' => '', 'localize' => '0' ) $obj = false</pre><pre class="stack-trace">include - APP/Lib/Modules.php(13) : eval()'d code, line 1 eval - APP/Lib/Modules.php(13) : eval()'d code, line 1 Modules::render() - APP/Lib/Modules.php, line 13 Modules::load() - APP/Lib/Modules.php, line 29 Localize::getModule() - APP/Lib/Localize.php, line 294 Localize::replace() - APP/Lib/Localize.php, line 219 Modules::render() - APP/Lib/Modules.php, line 9 include - APP/View/Elements/display.ctp, line 13 View::_evaluate() - CORE/Cake/View/View.php, line 971 View::_render() - CORE/Cake/View/View.php, line 933 View::render() - CORE/Cake/View/View.php, line 473 Controller::render() - CORE/Cake/Controller/Controller.php, line 963 AppController::renderPage() - APP/Controller/AppController.php, line 136 BlogsController::display() - APP/Controller/BlogsController.php, line 81 ReflectionMethod::invokeArgs() - [internal], line ?? Controller::invokeAction() - CORE/Cake/Controller/Controller.php, line 491 Dispatcher::_invoke() - CORE/Cake/Routing/Dispatcher.php, line 193 Dispatcher::dispatch() - CORE/Cake/Routing/Dispatcher.php, line 167</pre></div></pre><pre class="cake-error"><a href="javascript:void(0);" onclick="document.getElementById('cakeErr66e7d77345b65-trace').style.display = (document.getElementById('cakeErr66e7d77345b65-trace').style.display == 'none' ? '' : 'none');"><b>Warning</b> (2)</a>: include() [<a href='http://php.net/function.include'>function.include</a>]: Failed opening '/var/www/vhosts/vcc_staging/app//Resource/experience.master.resource.root.html' for inclusion (include_path='/var/www/vhosts/vcc_staging/lib:.:/usr/share/pear:/usr/share/php') [<b>APP/Lib/Modules.php(13) : eval()'d code</b>, line <b>1</b>]<div id="cakeErr66e7d77345b65-trace" class="cake-stack-trace" style="display: none;"><a href="javascript:void(0);" onclick="document.getElementById('cakeErr66e7d77345b65-code').style.display = (document.getElementById('cakeErr66e7d77345b65-code').style.display == 'none' ? '' : 'none')">Code</a> <a href="javascript:void(0);" onclick="document.getElementById('cakeErr66e7d77345b65-context').style.display = (document.getElementById('cakeErr66e7d77345b65-context').style.display == 'none' ? 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While I don’t recall the context, I do recall my reaction: Immediate and visceral. “I’m NOT elderly,” I declared forcefully. How can that be? I don’t feel older than 35 – okay 45, if I’m being honest. Actually, she’s closer to 45 and I’m well – much older. But “elderly”?<br><br>Among the synonyms for elderly in the dictionary are “ancient” and “over the hill” which could explain my reaction. I don’t have any problems with “senior” or AARP’s preference of “older adult.” In my daughter’s adopted city, I’m an “honored citizen.” I tend to use the phrase “a woman of a certain age.” Elderly sounds like a state of mind or body that may imply frail. While I have my share of aches and pains, I walk several miles a day, prefer stairs to elevators and, am pretty healthy overall.<br><br>I’ve repeated the story of my daughter’s mischaracterization (now I’m being generous) to friends who have appropriately supported my indignation by being appalled and assuring me that I am not elderly. I’d love to hear from you. What euphemisms do you prefer? What does elderly denote for you?<br><br>In the meantime, check out the <br><br>e or watch your in box for emails regarding virtual and in-person events taking place across the state in September, including continuation of the Cooking for Caregivers series, yoga and meditation, ADU advocacy, and discussion of election essentials to empower your vote.</p></div> </div> </p></span> </div> </div> <p><i>This story is provided by AARP Illinois. 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'' : 'none');"><b>Warning</b> (2)</a>: include() [<a href='http://php.net/function.include'>function.include</a>]: Failed opening '/var/www/vhosts/vcc_staging/app//Resource/experience.master.resource.root.html' for inclusion (include_path='/var/www/vhosts/vcc_staging/lib:.:/usr/share/pear:/usr/share/php') [<b>APP/Lib/Modules.php(13) : eval()'d code</b>, line <b>1</b>]<div id="cakeErr66e7d77345b65-trace" class="cake-stack-trace" style="display: none;"><a href="javascript:void(0);" onclick="document.getElementById('cakeErr66e7d77345b65-code').style.display = (document.getElementById('cakeErr66e7d77345b65-code').style.display == 'none' ? '' : 'none')">Code</a> <a href="javascript:void(0);" onclick="document.getElementById('cakeErr66e7d77345b65-context').style.display = (document.getElementById('cakeErr66e7d77345b65-context').style.display == 'none' ? '' : 'none')">Context</a><pre id="cakeErr66e7d77345b65-context" class="cake-context" style="display: none;">$module = array( '_id' => '66158db0e9dff2b1fd9cafcd', 'module_id' => '1098', 'name' => 'RHS - Events Experience', 'type' => 'php', 'data' => '<?php include(APP . "/Resource/experience.master.resource.root.html"); ?> <style type="text/css"> .recommenationSection {font-family: Lato, sans-serif} .recommendationSection h3 {font-size:30px!important; text-transform:none; letter-spacing:0.03em} .recommendationSection .js-mvc-offer-recommended-article-pack-category {color:#dd1200; font-family:Lato, sans-serif; font-size:15px; font-weight:700; text-transform:uppercase; margin:0} .recommendationSection h4 a {color:#121212; font-size:20px; font-weight:700} .recommendationSection .uxdia-c-featured-tile__content-wrapper {padding: 0 0 .5em 0; margin-bottom: 1.25em; border-bottom: 1px solid #000} </style>', 'css' => '.recommendationSection h3 {font-size:30px} .recommenadationSection .js-mvc-offer-recommended-article-pack-category {color:rgb(221,18,0); font-size:12px} .recommendationSection h4 a {color:#121212; font-size:20px} ', 'script' => '', 'cache_time' => '', 'localize' => '0' ) $obj = false</pre><pre class="stack-trace">include - APP/Lib/Modules.php(13) : eval()'d code, line 1 eval - APP/Lib/Modules.php(13) : eval()'d code, line 1 Modules::render() - APP/Lib/Modules.php, line 13 Modules::load() - APP/Lib/Modules.php, line 29 Localize::getModule() - APP/Lib/Localize.php, line 294 Localize::replace() - APP/Lib/Localize.php, line 219 Modules::render() - APP/Lib/Modules.php, line 9 include - APP/View/Elements/display.ctp, line 13 View::_evaluate() - CORE/Cake/View/View.php, line 971 View::_render() - CORE/Cake/View/View.php, line 933 View::render() - CORE/Cake/View/View.php, line 473 Controller::render() - CORE/Cake/Controller/Controller.php, line 963 AppController::renderPage() - APP/Controller/AppController.php, line 136 BlogsController::display() - APP/Controller/BlogsController.php, line 81 ReflectionMethod::invokeArgs() - [internal], line ?? Controller::invokeAction() - CORE/Cake/Controller/Controller.php, line 491 Dispatcher::_invoke() - CORE/Cake/Routing/Dispatcher.php, line 193 Dispatcher::dispatch() - CORE/Cake/Routing/Dispatcher.php, line 167</pre></div></pre><style type="text/css"> .recommenationSection {font-family: Lato, sans-serif} .recommendationSection h3 {font-size:30px!important; text-transform:none; letter-spacing:0.03em} .recommendationSection .js-mvc-offer-recommended-article-pack-category {color:#dd1200; font-family:Lato, sans-serif; font-size:15px; font-weight:700; text-transform:uppercase; margin:0} .recommendationSection h4 a {color:#121212; font-size:20px; font-weight:700} .recommendationSection .uxdia-c-featured-tile__content-wrapper {padding: 0 0 .5em 0; margin-bottom: 1.25em; border-bottom: 1px solid #000} </style> <div aria-hidden="true" class="aarpe-ad-wrapper"> <div class="aarpe-ad en clearfix" id="300x250_53475" data-adsize="300x250"> <script type="text/javascript"> if(typeof AARP.ads !== 'undefined'){ AARP.ads.slots({ id:'300x250_53475', size:'300x250'}); } </script> </div> </div> <div class="card-tout card-dark membership-tout" style="margin:0 0 30px 0;"> <img class="img-responsive image" title="image of two AARP membership cards" alt="image of two AARP membership cards" src="https://cdn-aarp.americantowns.com/img/tout-two-cards.png"> <div class="title">Only $12 your first year with Automatic Renewal</div> <ul class="list"> <li>Immediate access to your <a href="https://www.aarp.org/benefits-discounts/">member benefits</a></li> <li>Discounts on travel and everyday savings</li> <li>Subscription to AARP The Magazine</li> <li>FREE second membership</li> </ul> <div class="action"> <a class="btn" href="https://appsec.aarp.org/mem/join?campaignid=UAJFT3&intcmp=LNK-CSN-AARPLOCAL-JRTOUT-RR-A-SPRINGFIELD-IL">Join AARP</a> <div class="body">Already a member? 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Don’t Call Me Elderly</h1></header> <div class="posted-on"> Posted on 08/19/24 </div> </div> <div class="module-spacer"> <span class="blog-content"><p><div class="RichTextArticleBody"> <div class="RichTextArticleBody-body"><div class="Enhancement" > <div class="Enhancement-item"><figure class="Figure" data-alignment="center"> <img src="https://aarp-states.brightspotcdn.com/41/19/50d923864a43931bb391e272a21f/incoversation-graphic2v2.png" alt="In Conversation" width="1080" height="720"/> </figure> </div> </div><p>A short while ago, when visiting my daughter out-of-state, she referred to her “elderly parents”. While I don’t recall the context, I do recall my reaction: Immediate and visceral. “I’m NOT elderly,” I declared forcefully. How can that be? I don’t feel older than 35 – okay 45, if I’m being honest. Actually, she’s closer to 45 and I’m well – much older. But “elderly”?<br><br>Among the synonyms for elderly in the dictionary are “ancient” and “over the hill” which could explain my reaction. I don’t have any problems with “senior” or AARP’s preference of “older adult.” In my daughter’s adopted city, I’m an “honored citizen.” I tend to use the phrase “a woman of a certain age.” Elderly sounds like a state of mind or body that may imply frail. While I have my share of aches and pains, I walk several miles a day, prefer stairs to elevators and, am pretty healthy overall.<br><br>I’ve repeated the story of my daughter’s mischaracterization (now I’m being generous) to friends who have appropriately supported my indignation by being appalled and assuring me that I am not elderly. I’d love to hear from you. What euphemisms do you prefer? What does elderly denote for you?<br><br>In the meantime, check out the <br><br>e or watch your in box for emails regarding virtual and in-person events taking place across the state in September, including continuation of the Cooking for Caregivers series, yoga and meditation, ADU advocacy, and discussion of election essentials to empower your vote.</p></div> </div> </p></span> </div> </div> <p><i>This story is provided by AARP Illinois. 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'' : 'none');"><b>Warning</b> (2)</a>: include(/var/www/vhosts/vcc_staging/app//Resource/experience.master.resource.root.html): failed to open stream: No such file or directory [<b>APP/Lib/Modules.php(13) : eval()'d code</b>, line <b>1</b>]<div id="cakeErr66e7d77344c8d-trace" class="cake-stack-trace" style="display: none;"><a href="javascript:void(0);" onclick="document.getElementById('cakeErr66e7d77344c8d-code').style.display = (document.getElementById('cakeErr66e7d77344c8d-code').style.display == 'none' ? '' : 'none')">Code</a> <a href="javascript:void(0);" onclick="document.getElementById('cakeErr66e7d77344c8d-context').style.display = (document.getElementById('cakeErr66e7d77344c8d-context').style.display == 'none' ? '' : 'none')">Context</a><pre id="cakeErr66e7d77344c8d-context" class="cake-context" style="display: none;">$module = array( '_id' => '66158db0e9dff2b1fd9cafcd', 'module_id' => '1098', 'name' => 'RHS - Events Experience', 'type' => 'php', 'data' => '<?php include(APP . "/Resource/experience.master.resource.root.html"); ?> <style type="text/css"> .recommenationSection {font-family: Lato, sans-serif} .recommendationSection h3 {font-size:30px!important; text-transform:none; letter-spacing:0.03em} .recommendationSection .js-mvc-offer-recommended-article-pack-category {color:#dd1200; font-family:Lato, sans-serif; font-size:15px; font-weight:700; text-transform:uppercase; margin:0} .recommendationSection h4 a {color:#121212; font-size:20px; font-weight:700} .recommendationSection .uxdia-c-featured-tile__content-wrapper {padding: 0 0 .5em 0; margin-bottom: 1.25em; border-bottom: 1px solid #000} </style>', 'css' => '.recommendationSection h3 {font-size:30px} .recommenadationSection .js-mvc-offer-recommended-article-pack-category {color:rgb(221,18,0); font-size:12px} .recommendationSection h4 a {color:#121212; font-size:20px} ', 'script' => '', 'cache_time' => '', 'localize' => '0' ) $obj = false</pre><pre class="stack-trace">include - APP/Lib/Modules.php(13) : eval()'d code, line 1 eval - APP/Lib/Modules.php(13) : eval()'d code, line 1 Modules::render() - APP/Lib/Modules.php, line 13 Modules::load() - APP/Lib/Modules.php, line 29 Localize::getModule() - APP/Lib/Localize.php, line 294 Localize::replace() - APP/Lib/Localize.php, line 219 Modules::render() - APP/Lib/Modules.php, line 9 include - APP/View/Elements/display.ctp, line 13 View::_evaluate() - CORE/Cake/View/View.php, line 971 View::_render() - CORE/Cake/View/View.php, line 933 View::render() - CORE/Cake/View/View.php, line 473 Controller::render() - CORE/Cake/Controller/Controller.php, line 963 AppController::renderPage() - APP/Controller/AppController.php, line 136 BlogsController::display() - APP/Controller/BlogsController.php, line 81 ReflectionMethod::invokeArgs() - [internal], line ?? Controller::invokeAction() - CORE/Cake/Controller/Controller.php, line 491 Dispatcher::_invoke() - CORE/Cake/Routing/Dispatcher.php, line 193 Dispatcher::dispatch() - CORE/Cake/Routing/Dispatcher.php, line 167</pre></div></pre><pre class="cake-error"><a href="javascript:void(0);" onclick="document.getElementById('cakeErr66e7d77345b65-trace').style.display = (document.getElementById('cakeErr66e7d77345b65-trace').style.display == 'none' ? '' : 'none');"><b>Warning</b> (2)</a>: include() [<a href='http://php.net/function.include'>function.include</a>]: Failed opening '/var/www/vhosts/vcc_staging/app//Resource/experience.master.resource.root.html' for inclusion (include_path='/var/www/vhosts/vcc_staging/lib:.:/usr/share/pear:/usr/share/php') [<b>APP/Lib/Modules.php(13) : eval()'d code</b>, line <b>1</b>]<div id="cakeErr66e7d77345b65-trace" class="cake-stack-trace" style="display: none;"><a href="javascript:void(0);" onclick="document.getElementById('cakeErr66e7d77345b65-code').style.display = (document.getElementById('cakeErr66e7d77345b65-code').style.display == 'none' ? '' : 'none')">Code</a> <a href="javascript:void(0);" onclick="document.getElementById('cakeErr66e7d77345b65-context').style.display = (document.getElementById('cakeErr66e7d77345b65-context').style.display == 'none' ? 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While I don’t recall the context, I do recall my reaction: Immediate and visceral. “I’m NOT elderly,” I declared forcefully. How can that be? I don’t feel older than 35 – okay 45, if I’m being honest. Actually, she’s closer to 45 and I’m well – much older. But “elderly”?<br><br>Among the synonyms for elderly in the dictionary are “ancient” and “over the hill” which could explain my reaction. I don’t have any problems with “senior” or AARP’s preference of “older adult.” In my daughter’s adopted city, I’m an “honored citizen.” I tend to use the phrase “a woman of a certain age.” Elderly sounds like a state of mind or body that may imply frail. While I have my share of aches and pains, I walk several miles a day, prefer stairs to elevators and, am pretty healthy overall.<br><br>I’ve repeated the story of my daughter’s mischaracterization (now I’m being generous) to friends who have appropriately supported my indignation by being appalled and assuring me that I am not elderly. I’d love to hear from you. What euphemisms do you prefer? What does elderly denote for you?<br><br>In the meantime, check out the <br><br>e or watch your in box for emails regarding virtual and in-person events taking place across the state in September, including continuation of the Cooking for Caregivers series, yoga and meditation, ADU advocacy, and discussion of election essentials to empower your vote.</p></div> </div> </p></span> </div> </div> <p><i>This story is provided by AARP Illinois. 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'' : 'none');"><b>Warning</b> (2)</a>: include() [<a href='http://php.net/function.include'>function.include</a>]: Failed opening '/var/www/vhosts/vcc_staging/app//Resource/experience.master.resource.root.html' for inclusion (include_path='/var/www/vhosts/vcc_staging/lib:.:/usr/share/pear:/usr/share/php') [<b>APP/Lib/Modules.php(13) : eval()'d code</b>, line <b>1</b>]<div id="cakeErr66e7d77345b65-trace" class="cake-stack-trace" style="display: none;"><a href="javascript:void(0);" onclick="document.getElementById('cakeErr66e7d77345b65-code').style.display = (document.getElementById('cakeErr66e7d77345b65-code').style.display == 'none' ? '' : 'none')">Code</a> <a href="javascript:void(0);" onclick="document.getElementById('cakeErr66e7d77345b65-context').style.display = (document.getElementById('cakeErr66e7d77345b65-context').style.display == 'none' ? '' : 'none')">Context</a><pre id="cakeErr66e7d77345b65-context" class="cake-context" style="display: none;">$module = array( '_id' => '66158db0e9dff2b1fd9cafcd', 'module_id' => '1098', 'name' => 'RHS - Events Experience', 'type' => 'php', 'data' => '<?php include(APP . "/Resource/experience.master.resource.root.html"); ?> <style type="text/css"> .recommenationSection {font-family: Lato, sans-serif} .recommendationSection h3 {font-size:30px!important; text-transform:none; letter-spacing:0.03em} .recommendationSection .js-mvc-offer-recommended-article-pack-category {color:#dd1200; font-family:Lato, sans-serif; font-size:15px; font-weight:700; text-transform:uppercase; margin:0} .recommendationSection h4 a {color:#121212; font-size:20px; font-weight:700} .recommendationSection .uxdia-c-featured-tile__content-wrapper {padding: 0 0 .5em 0; margin-bottom: 1.25em; border-bottom: 1px solid #000} </style>', 'css' => '.recommendationSection h3 {font-size:30px} .recommenadationSection .js-mvc-offer-recommended-article-pack-category {color:rgb(221,18,0); font-size:12px} .recommendationSection h4 a {color:#121212; font-size:20px} ', 'script' => '', 'cache_time' => '', 'localize' => '0' ) $obj = false</pre><pre class="stack-trace">include - APP/Lib/Modules.php(13) : eval()'d code, line 1 eval - APP/Lib/Modules.php(13) : eval()'d code, line 1 Modules::render() - APP/Lib/Modules.php, line 13 Modules::load() - APP/Lib/Modules.php, line 29 Localize::getModule() - APP/Lib/Localize.php, line 294 Localize::replace() - APP/Lib/Localize.php, line 219 Modules::render() - APP/Lib/Modules.php, line 9 include - APP/View/Elements/display.ctp, line 13 View::_evaluate() - CORE/Cake/View/View.php, line 971 View::_render() - CORE/Cake/View/View.php, line 933 View::render() - CORE/Cake/View/View.php, line 473 Controller::render() - CORE/Cake/Controller/Controller.php, line 963 AppController::renderPage() - APP/Controller/AppController.php, line 136 BlogsController::display() - APP/Controller/BlogsController.php, line 81 ReflectionMethod::invokeArgs() - [internal], line ?? Controller::invokeAction() - CORE/Cake/Controller/Controller.php, line 491 Dispatcher::_invoke() - CORE/Cake/Routing/Dispatcher.php, line 193 Dispatcher::dispatch() - CORE/Cake/Routing/Dispatcher.php, line 167</pre></div></pre><style type="text/css"> .recommenationSection {font-family: Lato, sans-serif} .recommendationSection h3 {font-size:30px!important; text-transform:none; letter-spacing:0.03em} .recommendationSection .js-mvc-offer-recommended-article-pack-category {color:#dd1200; font-family:Lato, sans-serif; font-size:15px; font-weight:700; text-transform:uppercase; margin:0} .recommendationSection h4 a {color:#121212; font-size:20px; font-weight:700} .recommendationSection .uxdia-c-featured-tile__content-wrapper {padding: 0 0 .5em 0; margin-bottom: 1.25em; border-bottom: 1px solid #000} </style> <div aria-hidden="true" class="aarpe-ad-wrapper"> <div class="aarpe-ad en clearfix" id="300x250_53475" data-adsize="300x250"> <script type="text/javascript"> if(typeof AARP.ads !== 'undefined'){ AARP.ads.slots({ id:'300x250_53475', size:'300x250'}); } </script> </div> </div> <div class="card-tout card-dark membership-tout" style="margin:0 0 30px 0;"> <img class="img-responsive image" title="image of two AARP membership cards" alt="image of two AARP membership cards" src="https://cdn-aarp.americantowns.com/img/tout-two-cards.png"> <div class="title">Only $12 your first year with Automatic Renewal</div> <ul class="list"> <li>Immediate access to your <a href="https://www.aarp.org/benefits-discounts/">member benefits</a></li> <li>Discounts on travel and everyday savings</li> <li>Subscription to AARP The Magazine</li> <li>FREE second membership</li> </ul> <div class="action"> <a class="btn" href="https://appsec.aarp.org/mem/join?campaignid=UAJFT3&intcmp=LNK-CSN-AARPLOCAL-JRTOUT-RR-A-SPRINGFIELD-IL">Join AARP</a> <div class="body">Already a member? 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Don’t Call Me Elderly</h1></header> <div class="posted-on"> Posted on 08/19/24 </div> </div> <div class="module-spacer"> <span class="blog-content"><p><div class="RichTextArticleBody"> <div class="RichTextArticleBody-body"><div class="Enhancement" > <div class="Enhancement-item"><figure class="Figure" data-alignment="center"> <img src="https://aarp-states.brightspotcdn.com/41/19/50d923864a43931bb391e272a21f/incoversation-graphic2v2.png" alt="In Conversation" width="1080" height="720"/> </figure> </div> </div><p>A short while ago, when visiting my daughter out-of-state, she referred to her “elderly parents”. While I don’t recall the context, I do recall my reaction: Immediate and visceral. “I’m NOT elderly,” I declared forcefully. How can that be? I don’t feel older than 35 – okay 45, if I’m being honest. Actually, she’s closer to 45 and I’m well – much older. But “elderly”?<br><br>Among the synonyms for elderly in the dictionary are “ancient” and “over the hill” which could explain my reaction. I don’t have any problems with “senior” or AARP’s preference of “older adult.” In my daughter’s adopted city, I’m an “honored citizen.” I tend to use the phrase “a woman of a certain age.” Elderly sounds like a state of mind or body that may imply frail. While I have my share of aches and pains, I walk several miles a day, prefer stairs to elevators and, am pretty healthy overall.<br><br>I’ve repeated the story of my daughter’s mischaracterization (now I’m being generous) to friends who have appropriately supported my indignation by being appalled and assuring me that I am not elderly. I’d love to hear from you. What euphemisms do you prefer? What does elderly denote for you?<br><br>In the meantime, check out the <br><br>e or watch your in box for emails regarding virtual and in-person events taking place across the state in September, including continuation of the Cooking for Caregivers series, yoga and meditation, ADU advocacy, and discussion of election essentials to empower your vote.</p></div> </div> </p></span> </div> </div> <p><i>This story is provided by AARP Illinois. 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'' : 'none');"><b>Warning</b> (2)</a>: include(/var/www/vhosts/vcc_staging/app//Resource/experience.master.resource.root.html): failed to open stream: No such file or directory [<b>APP/Lib/Modules.php(13) : eval()'d code</b>, line <b>1</b>]<div id="cakeErr66e7d77344c8d-trace" class="cake-stack-trace" style="display: none;"><a href="javascript:void(0);" onclick="document.getElementById('cakeErr66e7d77344c8d-code').style.display = (document.getElementById('cakeErr66e7d77344c8d-code').style.display == 'none' ? '' : 'none')">Code</a> <a href="javascript:void(0);" onclick="document.getElementById('cakeErr66e7d77344c8d-context').style.display = (document.getElementById('cakeErr66e7d77344c8d-context').style.display == 'none' ? '' : 'none')">Context</a><pre id="cakeErr66e7d77344c8d-context" class="cake-context" style="display: none;">$module = array( '_id' => '66158db0e9dff2b1fd9cafcd', 'module_id' => '1098', 'name' => 'RHS - Events Experience', 'type' => 'php', 'data' => '<?php include(APP . "/Resource/experience.master.resource.root.html"); ?> <style type="text/css"> .recommenationSection {font-family: Lato, sans-serif} .recommendationSection h3 {font-size:30px!important; text-transform:none; letter-spacing:0.03em} .recommendationSection .js-mvc-offer-recommended-article-pack-category {color:#dd1200; font-family:Lato, sans-serif; font-size:15px; font-weight:700; text-transform:uppercase; margin:0} .recommendationSection h4 a {color:#121212; font-size:20px; font-weight:700} .recommendationSection .uxdia-c-featured-tile__content-wrapper {padding: 0 0 .5em 0; margin-bottom: 1.25em; border-bottom: 1px solid #000} </style>', 'css' => '.recommendationSection h3 {font-size:30px} .recommenadationSection .js-mvc-offer-recommended-article-pack-category {color:rgb(221,18,0); font-size:12px} .recommendationSection h4 a {color:#121212; font-size:20px} ', 'script' => '', 'cache_time' => '', 'localize' => '0' ) $obj = false</pre><pre class="stack-trace">include - APP/Lib/Modules.php(13) : eval()'d code, line 1 eval - APP/Lib/Modules.php(13) : eval()'d code, line 1 Modules::render() - APP/Lib/Modules.php, line 13 Modules::load() - APP/Lib/Modules.php, line 29 Localize::getModule() - APP/Lib/Localize.php, line 294 Localize::replace() - APP/Lib/Localize.php, line 219 Modules::render() - APP/Lib/Modules.php, line 9 include - APP/View/Elements/display.ctp, line 13 View::_evaluate() - CORE/Cake/View/View.php, line 971 View::_render() - CORE/Cake/View/View.php, line 933 View::render() - CORE/Cake/View/View.php, line 473 Controller::render() - CORE/Cake/Controller/Controller.php, line 963 AppController::renderPage() - APP/Controller/AppController.php, line 136 BlogsController::display() - APP/Controller/BlogsController.php, line 81 ReflectionMethod::invokeArgs() - [internal], line ?? Controller::invokeAction() - CORE/Cake/Controller/Controller.php, line 491 Dispatcher::_invoke() - CORE/Cake/Routing/Dispatcher.php, line 193 Dispatcher::dispatch() - CORE/Cake/Routing/Dispatcher.php, line 167</pre></div></pre><pre class="cake-error"><a href="javascript:void(0);" onclick="document.getElementById('cakeErr66e7d77345b65-trace').style.display = (document.getElementById('cakeErr66e7d77345b65-trace').style.display == 'none' ? '' : 'none');"><b>Warning</b> (2)</a>: include() [<a href='http://php.net/function.include'>function.include</a>]: Failed opening '/var/www/vhosts/vcc_staging/app//Resource/experience.master.resource.root.html' for inclusion (include_path='/var/www/vhosts/vcc_staging/lib:.:/usr/share/pear:/usr/share/php') [<b>APP/Lib/Modules.php(13) : eval()'d code</b>, line <b>1</b>]<div id="cakeErr66e7d77345b65-trace" class="cake-stack-trace" style="display: none;"><a href="javascript:void(0);" onclick="document.getElementById('cakeErr66e7d77345b65-code').style.display = (document.getElementById('cakeErr66e7d77345b65-code').style.display == 'none' ? '' : 'none')">Code</a> <a href="javascript:void(0);" onclick="document.getElementById('cakeErr66e7d77345b65-context').style.display = (document.getElementById('cakeErr66e7d77345b65-context').style.display == 'none' ? '' : 'none')">Context</a><pre id="cakeErr66e7d77345b65-context" class="cake-context" style="display: none;">$module = array( '_id' => '66158db0e9dff2b1fd9cafcd', 'module_id' => '1098', 'name' => 'RHS - Events Experience', 'type' => 'php', 'data' => '<?php include(APP . "/Resource/experience.master.resource.root.html"); ?> <style type="text/css"> .recommenationSection {font-family: Lato, sans-serif} .recommendationSection h3 {font-size:30px!important; text-transform:none; letter-spacing:0.03em} .recommendationSection .js-mvc-offer-recommended-article-pack-category {color:#dd1200; font-family:Lato, sans-serif; font-size:15px; font-weight:700; text-transform:uppercase; margin:0} .recommendationSection h4 a {color:#121212; font-size:20px; font-weight:700} .recommendationSection .uxdia-c-featured-tile__content-wrapper {padding: 0 0 .5em 0; margin-bottom: 1.25em; border-bottom: 1px solid #000} </style>', 'css' => '.recommendationSection h3 {font-size:30px} .recommenadationSection .js-mvc-offer-recommended-article-pack-category {color:rgb(221,18,0); font-size:12px} .recommendationSection h4 a {color:#121212; font-size:20px} ', 'script' => '', 'cache_time' => '', 'localize' => '0' ) $obj = false</pre><pre class="stack-trace">include - APP/Lib/Modules.php(13) : eval()'d code, line 1 eval - APP/Lib/Modules.php(13) : eval()'d code, line 1 Modules::render() - APP/Lib/Modules.php, line 13 Modules::load() - APP/Lib/Modules.php, line 29 Localize::getModule() - APP/Lib/Localize.php, line 294 Localize::replace() - APP/Lib/Localize.php, line 219 Modules::render() - APP/Lib/Modules.php, line 9 include - APP/View/Elements/display.ctp, line 13 View::_evaluate() - CORE/Cake/View/View.php, line 971 View::_render() - CORE/Cake/View/View.php, line 933 View::render() - CORE/Cake/View/View.php, line 473 Controller::render() - CORE/Cake/Controller/Controller.php, line 963 AppController::renderPage() - APP/Controller/AppController.php, line 136 BlogsController::display() - APP/Controller/BlogsController.php, line 81 ReflectionMethod::invokeArgs() - [internal], line ?? Controller::invokeAction() - CORE/Cake/Controller/Controller.php, line 491 Dispatcher::_invoke() - CORE/Cake/Routing/Dispatcher.php, line 193 Dispatcher::dispatch() - CORE/Cake/Routing/Dispatcher.php, line 167</pre></div></pre><style type="text/css"> .recommenationSection {font-family: Lato, sans-serif} .recommendationSection h3 {font-size:30px!important; text-transform:none; letter-spacing:0.03em} .recommendationSection .js-mvc-offer-recommended-article-pack-category {color:#dd1200; font-family:Lato, sans-serif; font-size:15px; font-weight:700; text-transform:uppercase; margin:0} .recommendationSection h4 a {color:#121212; font-size:20px; font-weight:700} .recommendationSection .uxdia-c-featured-tile__content-wrapper {padding: 0 0 .5em 0; margin-bottom: 1.25em; border-bottom: 1px solid #000} </style> <div aria-hidden="true" class="aarpe-ad-wrapper"> <div class="aarpe-ad en clearfix" id="300x250_53475" data-adsize="300x250"> <script type="text/javascript"> if(typeof AARP.ads !== 'undefined'){ AARP.ads.slots({ id:'300x250_53475', size:'300x250'}); } </script> </div> </div> <div class="card-tout card-dark membership-tout" style="margin:0 0 30px 0;"> <img class="img-responsive image" title="image of two AARP membership cards" alt="image of two AARP membership cards" src="https://cdn-aarp.americantowns.com/img/tout-two-cards.png"> <div class="title">Only $12 your first year with Automatic Renewal</div> <ul class="list"> <li>Immediate access to your <a href="https://www.aarp.org/benefits-discounts/">member benefits</a></li> <li>Discounts on travel and everyday savings</li> <li>Subscription to AARP The Magazine</li> <li>FREE second membership</li> </ul> <div class="action"> <a class="btn" href="https://appsec.aarp.org/mem/join?campaignid=UAJFT3&intcmp=LNK-CSN-AARPLOCAL-JRTOUT-RR-A-SPRINGFIELD-IL">Join AARP</a> <div class="body">Already a member? 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